Expect to be hurt.
Yes, that’ s the unfortunate reality of life – we’ ll get hurt; literally, for sure, but also emotionally. Some of us are usually susceptible to being rejected; some of us to some lack of recognition; others, again, to some negligence of consideration that subjugates our existence.
We are going to get hurt.
So just why do we act so amazed? Well, it still hurts, that’ s why.
Even though we understand the logic that we are usually feeling creatures, it doesn’ capital t help much when we’ re faced with the crushing heartache contained in one (or a combination) of the million splinters of loss.
COMING TO BE GROUNDED IN OUR HURT
It’ s ours, our hurt.
Nobody else’ h is it. It’ s ours. Thinking, feeling persons, we’ re delivered with the innate capacity to experience life along a seemingly infinite range of emotion. Perception is ours, yet we embellish our awareness with various nuances from our injured child within.
Realising that to be hurt is a common human designation is a blessing, in this we can afford ourselves the elegance we need in simply understanding that sensation hurt isn’ t the other person’ s fault. Neither is it our fault. Feeling hurt simply is. That’ s all.
Whenever we come to a recognition of the details in life we cannot change, we have been invited into the opportunity of acceptance – as raw and as hard as that might be.
Being grounded in our hurt is being consoled by God, by the matter of the prayerful solitude, whereby we permit ourselves to shrink within, to abide in our hurt, but in a method to allow God’ s healing.
Therefore , we are not so much to chastise ourselves for the fact we feel hurt, but we are to unveil to ourselves the copious portions of God’ s elegance – because God understands we have been hurt. We receive the compassion of God this way, and our hurts are healed by the practical fact of acceptance – which is most often a process.
Certainly a key to being healthily grounded in our hurt is to expect that, since we are a composite of healthy and wounded parts, we will really feel hurt by our treatment plus circumstances at least some time.
Life hurts. Not only that, but we’ re effortlessly hurt by our circumstances through our treatment – even when we all know, logically, it’ s silly to become hurt. We’ re better off to expect we’ ll get hurt, and thus prepare ourselves. Journeying with The almighty into the healing of acceptance augments emotional health.
© 2013 S. J. Wickham.